Men's November rule
(midwest.social)
ShadowOfMiisha (she/her)
196Despite my one moment of sheer misandry, which I apologize for...I love you guys ❤️
I probably can't offer much in the way of comfort...
::: spoiler NSFW, TMI ...I mean, all I can offer is my body, and I doubt you'd want that :P... :::
...but I really, truly, honestly appreciate all of you guys. Really 💜
Without men, my life would be pretty boring and honestly pointless. And I don't just mean for sexual reasons...
::: spoiler NSFW, TMI ...well, the sexual reasons are a big and important part of it too, ngl, but they're not the only reason. :::
I see and appreciate you. You matter 🩷
To me. To your families. To everyone here ❤️
This isn't much comfort, but if any of you guys needs someone to talk to, my Matrix account is:
@horny_miisha:chat.blahaj.zone
Feel free to reach out!
You're not alone. You're never alone. I love you guys 💜
Thank you💛
I got over my depression and trauma and live mostly happily now with friends and family around me.
There were times when I were prepared to end it all.
I'm glad I didn't because the fight in the end was worth it and I wish that everyone gets to see the light at end of the tunnel like I did.
Never stop fighting, giving up is not an option.
I'm happy you're still with us <3
I'm glad to be here <3
Happy to see this, honestly. I feel this doesn't get discussed enough! It's also just hard talking about difficult things if you've never done it when you're young, even if you know you can talk about them now
Sorry for making a complete U-turn but what's the cropped off text if I may ask? I'm just really, very curious
For all the men reading these comments. My heart goes out to you that are suffering. I'm glad you are still here with us.
He isn't lonely or addicted to drugs He doesn't owe his mother's money to thugs He's not an alcoholic, he isn't depressed And he's gonna break a lot of hearts when he hangs himself
Thank you for this post Miisha.
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I appreciate this a lot. Thank you Miisha!
No problem 🫂
I just really appreciate the men. All men. Keep being awesome, guys ❤️
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turning 29 imminently... after a lifetime of depression and suicidal ideation, I had multiple life altering tragedies within the same week at age 25. i decided then that if i made it to 30 and still maintained no hope whatsoever for my future and the world's future, it was time to go. I don't want to die but life is so miserable. It's like being on fire.
I was going to do it at 10,000 days of life, had a bullet with that date scratched on it. That day came and went. I have found no new meaning to life, but am still here.
Honestly that counts. And the meaning of life is different for everyone but can just be living and occasionally being in someone else's
Hey there, I know a comment from a stranger isn't gonna do much but I sincerily hope things turn around for the better for you.
The world is better for you in it, it really is. I'm sorry you're struggling. It does get better.
Patriarchy hurts men too.
Famously, the first major legal win for feminism was a man getting custody of his child.
Its sad that so many men have swallowed the propaganda that feminism is somehow hurting them.
Patriarchy absolutely hurts men as well and I don't want to take away from your comment. I fully support it. And I fully support men revolting against the patriarchy and living how they want to live without the pressure to conform.
The first major legal win for feminism was about a mother being granted custody because before 1839, fathers were automatically granted custody of their children.
The Custody of Infants Act of 1839 is often seen as the first feminist legislative victory in a long campaign to reform English marriage laws (Shanley 17, Chase and Levenson 40). While legal scholars have noted instances when a father’s total control over his legitimate children had been limited by judicial rulings prior to 1839 (Abramowicz 1345), the 1839 Act stands as the first major reform to recognize the rights of mothers. The important role played by Caroline Norton in the passage of the Act is also key to recognizing the law as a feminist triumph (Shanley 17).
Prior to the 1839 Custody of Infants Act, a father had a right to his legitimate children and was automatically granted custody if he and his wife separated for any reason (Bailey 393). Most fathers granted custody or access to the children’s mothers because it was considered ungentlemanly to deny mothers the opportunity to be with their children. Judges could also require a father to grant access or custody to the mother in circumstances in which the children’s welfare would be in jeopardy if they were left with their father. (Bailey 394)
Having laid in bed for the last 48 hours I think this is directed at me today
I'm so sorry... 🫂
If you'd like to talk about it, I'm here. I suck as support, but damn do I try 😭
Thank you for your kindness 🙏🙏 on average, men go their entire lives without a single compliment and are expected to silently carry burdens and never show a moment of sensitivity or “weakness”.
No problem at all 🫂
I get it and I hate that that's how the world is. I suffered because of it once too, and I still remember. It's the worst, honestly...
I hope you have a nice day. Good luck with everything 🩷
Very kind of you 🙏🫂 hope you and your partner have a nice Monday too! 🙌
Oh god it's Monday? Already?! 😭
Jeez...
Thank you. Nice Monday to you too ❤️
Yeah I would like to not experience Mondays pls 😭😫 lol
tnx
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Hard to be depressed when we are absolutely dominating the leaderboard for these stats. Oorah fellas! 💪
We're so much more likely to die despite only leading in attempts by a small margin, because we're just better at it
(But don't actually)
This reminds me of the Brazil #1 homocide rate memes lol
Stay strong, boys. I... appreciate ya :p
I was just thinking about that lol
I'm sorry...🫂
Yeah I’m feeling a bit of depression hit me. To the point that I was this close to turning to an AI “best friend” yesterday. Instead, I just replied on some friends groups and went to sleep.
Oof, yeah I get that. It seems like such a good solution too. LLMs always seem so kind, knowledgeable and ready to help...but ime, it makes things much worse in the long run. I'm glad you didn't 🫂
And I'm glad you have those friend groups. I hope they treat you well 💜
Feel free to reach out anytime, if you'd like. I'm on Matrix. Be well 🩷
"75% of suicides are men. Men are 3 times more likely to die from suicide than women"
From this we can conclude that the population of men and women are equal to 2 sig figs.
I think the intended presentation is the percentage of attempted suicides, followed by the rate of successful suicides. I'm not familiar with the underlying statistics, though, so I can't confirm.
Tragically, men are statistically more successful at finishing the job than others. It’s heartbreaking. At least with a failed attempt, there’s a chance at living. We have failed men in a lot of ways and mental health support is one of them. Especially our vets.
0.75 * 3 = 2.25, am I missing something?
Thank you for posting about this. This both helps men and helps women by alleviating some of the "BuT wHeN iS mEnS day" chuds.
Last year's 19th November was shit. I hope Lemmy can give us a better men's day this year.
Here here, a cookie for lovely men. Do love and be loved.
Thank you sister 💜
For once, who cares me... lets serve (COOKIES!) to lovely bros :P
I wonder what it means that no nut november and mens mental health awareness month are the same month
Like is that a good thing or bad thing
It's also Movember, and that is hardly related to both.
Also known as No Shave November
As pointed out by someone else in the thread, it started out as something to raise awareness for prostate cancer. And not masturbating at all is bad for the prostate. So there, a connection 😃
No Nut November echoes practices of celibacy, shame of masturbation, and control over others sex lives that religious types love to use to keep their congregation guilty and seeking to be absolved through the church for very normal human urges.
Personally, I think it’s a bad thing to shame anyone for masturbating or framing masturbation as something that is dirty or addictive like it’s a drug or something. I’m sure it doesn’t help men’s mental health to do so.
Wasn't it driven by this guy selling his No PMO book and online course? (both overpriced and probably useless)
I always thought it was a kink thing, like edging and orgasm denial
My roommate and I did NNN in August. He has been struggling for a long time with severe porn addiction and really wanted to feel some power over it, so I suggested he take a month off cold turkey and I'd join him in solidarity. It was fun. There really doesn't need to be any shame. To me it's just an amusing exercise in observing and controlling my instincts.
I was referring more to the drive behind the movement. I'm glad that taking a break worked well for you both!
Just a side note (and not a judgy one, just a note) - you don't need to use porn to masturbate. Taking a break from porn doesn't necessarily mean you have to stop masturbating! It is healthy to masturbate, particularly for your prostate :)
I think a better thing for a load(heh) of folks would be no porn november or sm :)
Maturation is a treat. You can have too much, but a little is OK.
No nut November should help everyone remember to slow down on the junk food every now and then.
No, masturbation is not a reward or treat. It's normal.
At first, NNN is optional, more a personal challenge some do pick or not, also source of memes and more hornyposts. All optional, if someone is into that.
- You no like I'm not doing NNN? oh what You gonna do? HA
Mental health, for everyone is a human right, not so optional (at least should be).
- You no like some wanna have healthy mind? You think they should get sick and downed all the time? wtf?
Nothing to compare here.
If some want to abuse, will use not going NNN for 365, will call someone weakling for crying, a sinner for not going church, for being disabled, for being born in this or other country or having this or that eye colour. NNN is just excuse to abuse. Ugly and sad.
NNN neds to fucking die. That shit breeds right-wing incel behavior. No shame in blowing your wads, gents. Enjoy yourselves!
It’s also good for your prostate. Nut for your health 🍻
It also used to be No Fap February, now it's been moved and it's overshadowing movember.
Though I guess the difference is that in NNN you can't nut at all whereas fap just meant masturbation
It’s so ironic that movember was for prostate cancer awareness and then people decided it should be ‘no nut’ which I’ve heard is bad for the prostate…
Get help before you go nuts november?
I'm good at helping people, btw.
Just putting that out there.
You can call this "pretentious concern", you can call me mean and two-faced, I don't care...I care about men. And even though I've said some horrible stuff, I love and care about them.
So please, reach out. I won't judge you, no matter what ❤️
It's good to have stuff like this out there. There's a lot of us vs them type of stuff online. As a man, I can confirm that my feelings aren't considered a lot and I just deal with it because that's what is expected. It's good to hear "you matter" even if it's just a general post on the internet.
What horrible stuff have you said about men?
Eh...I was having a massive fight with my boyfriend and I was really pissed. I said something along the lines of "I hate all men, I'm never getting together with a man again"
I think I blamed the way he was on him being a man...which was fucking stupid of me tbh and it's bullshit, cause yes, I am indeed getting together with another man if I ever end up single. Duh 😂 /s
I regret it. It was wrong. It was just misandry. It was stupid...
As a representative from the Men's Delegation, I think it's completely forgiven if:
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It was private
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You didn't mean it
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You apologized
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He knew it was a sincere apology
We all make mistakes. If you have hate for men in your heart, that's different.
Omg! Men's Delegation, I'm honored! 😭
- Private, well...we fought in private. Just the comment I made was made on Lemmy. The post where it was is now deleted tho
- I didn't. I say stuff I really don't mean when I get emotional. I don't get upset very often, but when I do...welp :P
And of course I didn't mean it! Everyone around here knows I freaking love men, honest! 🩷 - I did. To him and to all the men here. And I'll do it again, if you need me to.
- Of course. I kinda...proved it...to him. In an NSFW way :P
I wanted to make sure he got it, I wanted to make it sincere! Don't judge me 😭
Thank you. It was a mistake. I certainly do not have hate for men in my heart, lol. Thank you 💜
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- In all fairness lots of people have sex with people they hate based on their immutable characteristics, but I'm willing to take that he knew via other means on faith, so: ✔️
I guess in a perfect world you'd want to edit your hateful comment to express it was said in anger and you apologize, but as you imply it might be impossible to find it, let alone find everyone who read it. I'm a bit confused as to how/why your private fight with your partner spilled onto Lemmy, but I guess that's none of my business other than the tut-tut for the public expression of hate.
I basically only frequent Lemmy out of all social media and I like it a lot here. I feel like I can express each and every thought freely, which is both a good and bad thing.
So when something like that was going on in my life, I went to the only place I know.
And yeah, we've fully made up now. It's been a while, too. We're totally good! Thank you 🩷
This is not a big deal. We all get hyperbolic in upset moments. It only matters how you resolve it and live going forward.
I think it's a medium deal. I've never gone on a racist/sexist/etc. rant out of anger in my life.
Then you have people like Cosmo Kramer or Roseanne Barr who have a moment of rage that ~~inspires~~ presents as bigotry and "totally didn't mean it" when they apologize profusely.
I'm sure some people forgive them, but I don't.
Big up to male privilege. Smashing those numbers out the park.
Like most things in our society, that privilege isn't distributed very equally. Acknowledging that male privilege exists isn't the same as saying all men have great lives (and in fact many have awful lives).
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When did they change it again? First it was health (go check your prostate), now only mental health?
Rrriiiggghhhtttt. This is awfully performative.
This is not the time for that. Rethink this and appreciate your fellow (wo)man.
I prefer to trust nothing and initially see the worst in everyone until proven otherwise.
Especially with the internet.
Sure. You're allowed to think whatever you'd like. But I mean it.
imagine throwing this bs at someone without even checking
I think I kinda get it tbh. If they're coming fresh off of Instagram, as another commenter has said (and I believe), they wouldn't know I'm usually like...this, lol. I get how it could seem like an ad/bot.
Still, thrilling to be called a bot for the first time!
WHAT? How tf did it come across as that??
Well, that's a first...
I don't have another "social media". If you mean OnlyFans, I would, but I'm not allowed to. And if you meant Matrix...yeah, shame on me for letting people know I'm here for them, right? Oh what a horrible person I am!
Honestly, first time I've been called a bot. Lmao, you're funny.
Lol, he sounds fresh off instagram.
Yep...that was my conclusion :P
