traaaaaaannnnnnnnnnsGerard P. Donelan (born 1949), known mononymously as Donelan, is a gay cartoonist. Part of the first wave of LGBT cartoonists, he drew It's a Gay Life, a regular gag cartoon feature in The Advocate, for 15 years.
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Well now I have to try it to see if I acid pass
The Electric Transgender Acid Test
::: spoiler sex stuff so my therapist is part of this program with a queer, trans positive porn site where they give out free trial codes the clients can use, and she gave me one a few weeks ago. i finally got around to setting it up tonight. browsed around for a little and then just shut my laptop and cried for a bit. i don't really know if i have the wherewithal to unpack that right now :::
::: spoiler spoiler ur therapist is awesome waow basedbased :::
::: spoiler spoiler what
the
fuck??
Not about your reaction, about the therapist doing... that :::
She's very very sex positive and I've been a client of hers for years. It doesn't feel that weird
If you're ok with it then it's fine, but sorry it had that effect on you
Me too :/ the content wasn't offensive or anything I'm just going through it I guess
I have never heard of a therapist doing something like that, wow.
::: spoiler spoiler A therapist giving out free trials to a porn site is crazy
I'm sorry. I get it. :::
Moving all my two factor authentication stuff off my (now bent) iPhone 10 and onto the somewhat modern Samsung phone I have laying around is annoying.
But my iPhone got crunched right where the motherboard is. The sandwiched motherboard with solder balls all around the perimeter of the two PCBs. The motherboard that's infamous for viciously hating being bent.
And yeah that iPhone 10 has been acting progressively weirder and weirder, so I need to move my shit out of it ASAP!
Namely my login stuff and notes. Having my photos would be nice, but I'm too lazy, and it's not THE biggest deal if I lose them.
And I also need to get a new phone. Heh.... Yeah a flaky iPhone 10 isn't going to cut it.
I'm thinking about replacing my phone's battery instead of the whole phone; I feel like phones age better than they used to, although 9 years is still a really long time for a phone to last.
Work was actually decent today :) Talked with my boss for a few hours about what all we wants me working on and I'm kinda excited. Also my cube is next to a they/them butch which is very waow. But first day was mostly just the typical boring stuff, watched a lot of videos and played on my phone a bit. He claims there will be a lot of down time the first few months while they get me up to speed which would be hype.
wonderful!
they/them butch
Hey, that sounds pretty good! Hope you get to be friends with your cube neighbour
Happy for you <3
hell yeah! that sounds basically as good as it could be, and a cubicle next to a they them butch has got to be a bit encouraging. get those training videos in, make sure to not stand on a ladder alone or smth
Hell yes, glad it went well for you!
i'm glad it was ok for you! first few months of an office job tends to be free money just getting paid to be bored by onboarding bs basically
Oooh, that seems nice. So happy for you!
wow. happy it seems neato
I know that never happens
yippeee
trans women cant even have them being oppressed be about them
yeah
mfw my gf tells me there are no based philosophers who hated everyone
Does Diogenes count?
my face when no face
i have been awake for 30 hours
mmmmmm
The only suffering from my negative vibes are and my gf. None of my ops are. Genuinely useless to have negative vibes.
"Why do I feel like shit?"
-woman who forgot to do her injection yesterday, overcommitted to stuff this week, is behind on self care, and dealing with the consequences of ignoring parts of herself for months.
I will never be a mother (do I look like I'll be allowed to adopt?) and possibly my gf won't even be able to visit me/live with me.
Genuinely destined to be alone. Cursed to be alone amongst people. Those who are with me physically aren't with me emotionally and those who are with me emotionally aren't there physically.
average trans polycule
(its an age regression joke)
Playing with fire I see
My one team mate has made such a complex github repo that we need more than 3 charts and dozens of hyperlinks just to navigate it.
I say more than 3 charts cause I don't even know how many charts and sections this thing has.
152 metrics in 1 folder
176 metrics in another
And 270 extra figures
Plus full data dumps of god knows how many runs and legacy codes
All this for a single graded assignment we gotta summarise in 10 mins ppt presentation cries.
::: spoiler shaving question I'm halfway thinking of getting a safety razor, but not sure if I'd like it and it's a lot of upfront expense even if it saves money over time.
For years I've been using multiblade disposable head razors with the little moisturizing strip, just wetting the razor in the sink and shaving without using shaving cream/gel. I have literally never used shaving cream in my life and I really don't feel like starting now. Can I get away with not using cream if I switch to a safety razor, or is that asking for trouble? I wish I could test it out for a week before I buy one but that isn't really an option, and I don't want to buy a whole nice set up and then not like using it. :::
::: spoiler spoiler highly recommend using conditioner as a shaving cream, it's not as expensive but makes it So Easy to get a close shave :::
::: spoiler spoiler ive been using exclusively a safety razor for years and just shave in the shower using the water, no cream or anything
it will inevitably save money over time because regular ol razor blades are soooo cheap
big recommend personally :::
::: spoiler spoiler Ok good to know, thanks! I don't like shaving in the shower, but previous experience has shown that it's about 1:1 with shaving in the sink for me/my face so I bet I can manage.
Part of my reluctance is that I spend so little on the disposables that when I did the math it would take like years to break even if I switched (if I had to pay for shaving cream as well). I use the disposables for like months between replacements and I've been working through a stash of them that I got before COVID started and they're only now close to running out. So if the safety razor works and I can commit to it for the better half of a decade I'm in, but that's a huge hurdle when I don't know if I will like it. And previously, everyone who has suggested them uses shaving cream so I don't have a real comparison to work with.
Thanks for the info :::
::: spoiler spoiler nodsnods thats fair, though i will say you should probably be replacing ur razor blades more than once a month haha
safety razors get a lot closer of a shave & are a lot better at shaving body hair in my experience so i prefer them, and i only spend like $20 usd a year on razor blades so its mostly a non factor
if you do decide to get one please get a sharps container to dispose of the razor blades, dont just throw them out (another reason safety razors are better is they are a lot better for the environment haha) :::
::: spoiler spoiler That's what everyone always says, but it's never been a problem for me so far (but I am decidedly a gremlin ). I don't shave every day, and when I do I dry the blades off really well and they last way longer than I'd expect them to. I have definitely spent less than 20 a year on razors for the last several years this way, but I know it's not ideal or something I'd suggest to someone else lol. Switching to a safety razor will also mean I can start shaving more often (and closer) when I feel like it though, so that could be a big plus regardless.
I am aware of the sharps situation too (good looking out though, having had to deal with other's poorly disposed ones). I think it won't be an issue because my partner already has a syringe disposal system in place and I think I can just piggyback on that hopefully.
Thank you again for all the helpful info and advice, I really appreciate the input! :::
D O W N
W I T H
C I S ↓
down with cis
DOWN WITH CIS
down with cis
DOWN WITH CIS
I hate having to be responsible
I can start speech therapy now but it makes more financial sense to wait until next year. No one has a gun to my head forcing me to save as much money as I can--indeed, the reason I save so much is so that I can use it for things that really matter, things like this. But it's still just driving me crazy...
I'm going to try to compromise, do just a few sessions this year every couple weeks so I can start grasping the fundamentals and then get more regular in the new year. It'll only cost me a couple hundred more than it would to delay. That's worth it, right?
thought I had a justification because I need to spend down my FSA, but if I start using it for therapy copays and reimburse myself for the ones I've done since August I'll get under the limit for carrying over into the grace period (up to march 15th)
Can't even justify with tax implications because it's deducted out of my paycheck so I could file taxes in february like I always like to
I should probably allow myself to spend money on things that are important to me without going through an exhaustive process to make sure I'm doing it "optimally", right
This line of thinking is super relatable to me, I totally get what you're talking about. Which probably means you should do whatever the opposite is, based on the results of my entire adult life
(Disclaimer: mostly a joke at my expense, not to be taken as actual life advice)
You should spend money on yourself if it's important to you, and that's what matters, it being important to YOU
It is important to me... but spending larger sums of money in a way that doesn't feel "efficient" is really hard to tolerate. Even though efficiency would mean suffering in the meantime
Ugh. Glad I have therapy tomorrow
You should at least start it now. It does not have to be efficient if it's needed, unless it will make you struggle with money.
The urge to throw all of my clothes into a dumpster and just wear one bright yellow and purple coverall jumpsuit for the rest of my life like some cartoon character
Me but with the Old Navy PowerChill Scoop-Back Athletic Dress, in black
::: spoiler transphobia The average Brazilian gamer can go fuck themselves. I'm tired of every single time I comment something on the more "left" subreddits like r/gamesecultura, I get misgendered, today one of them even told me they don't care abouy my pronouns. At least the mods remove this type of comment almost every time after I report it, but fuck this shit, I'm tired of it even happening to begin with, I make sure to always have a very visible flair so this doesn't happen and it doesn't matter. I usually like the posts there, but honestly I think I'm just gonna keep myself at places like r/JogosAntifa, fuck me for expecting the bare minimum of decency from other human beings, but I guess it is to be expected from the country that watches a shit ton of trans porn but that also kills trans people the most. And the worse part is that it was a post glazing that one dude in France "protecting" his comic shop or something from protestors, ugh. :::
@scrungus@hexbear.net
Sorry forgot to answer you in the previous thread.
I'm sorry you have to put up with that bullshit. Is there any way you can get the right stuff any time soon?
Thank you comrade, your interactions here with me always feels like a warm hug
I honestly don't know, but I'm trying not to think too much about it.
No worries, sorry to always be asking you so many questions. Sometimes a doesn't feel like enough of a response from me for some reason
said unfinished minis, decided to break with my trans color scheme for my take on Gaunt’s Ghosts, lowkey like my version better than the box models
for some reason i’m scared of highlighting, i finish the base coats, i fix the colors, do the wash; but the finishing touches scare me
Gaunt’s Ghosts
they look niceee
for some reason i’m scared of highlighting, i finish the base coats, i fix the colors, do the wash; but the finishing touches scare me
that's a mood, i've only finished highlighting on my banshee squad and even there only one colour before i moved on to a new mini
I think I'm in a good place emotionally and mentally now. Those spiralling sessions still start up occasionally but its gotten so much better from when it was multiple times a day. I've been getting back to more creative pursuits, my brother got me some patches and Ive been meaning to sew them onto my project jacket, hoping to make some progress on that before halloween.
::: spoiler this swooping hawk jetpack came together really nicely :::
oh that’s gorgeous , a whole squad seems like it would be a pain but that’s so pretty
Yo chat, what does it mean when you try to make plans with your partner after 5 months of them supposedly being too busy to go out with you, and they respond by leaving you on read for three days and changing the subject
Like was her telling me to be more proactive in planning stuff just straight up a bluff?
Oof, haven't had this happen with a partner, but I have had this happen with a former friend. Emphasis on former.
Idk the details of your experience. But in mine, what I had to figure out was that, at a certain point, if this person isn't doing anything materially to uphold the relationship, you effectively don't have one. And to keep barking up that tree isn't going to do you much good.
It’s cool though, she has other partners to balance, including ones she actually likes, so I shouldn’t be so selfish 🙃
Yikes. If they don't feel interested in you and it's frustrating, leave them.
I have to lock in and read around 70 pages of academic text today. But like in a nonbinary way
UPDATE! I have 24 pages left to read. I'm fuelled only by a healthy lunch of pasta and homemade tomato sauce, two cups of tea and the Deltarune soundtrack. I'm out of SSRIs, I don't have meds for my ADHD and yet I've managed to truly lock in. I may be some sort of academic weapon. But like in an agender way
11 hour shift on 1.5 hours of sleep lets gooooooo
oof rip
inject the coffee straight into the veins? hope the day goes well despite everything
Starting my first real job in like an hour.
awh you got this, cutie
I hope it goes as well as possible and it isn't as bad as you think it will be
::: spoiler suicidal ideation Someone kill me please :timmy-pray:
God I fucking hate being here. :::
Have a virtual hug.
I get that feeling today especially. Everything sucks and makes me cry. I feel lonely, like nobody understands or even gives a fuck and I fear my new job (starts 2.11) where I won't only be the only trans women but probably the only women at all.
:cuddle:
Yea it's fucking awful. I'm almost there and can barely hold back tears. Genuinely awful. I'm definitely the only removed in the whole place too. Fuck my entire life.
Update me on how it went, I know you will do well. Wish I could lend you some of my pathetic strength.
Also, if they don't appreciate you, fuck them. We love you <3
I will, thank you.
It's far, far from just being the job bothering me. Glad you all like me.
we like you a lot. good luck with the job!
They played an electro swing version of MCR Mama at the furry rave, that was fun. no surprises everyone sang along with "you should have raised a baby girl, I should have been a better son"
This is me
insomnia
sameee
ive decided to stay up all night, insomniacs gambit time
Same :(
INSOMNIA
INSOMNIA INSOMNIA INSOMNIA INSOMNIA
This emoji kinda looks like an electric pig
One thing that drives me crazy about my current unit is they dont stock pads... I know its a peds cardiac unit so most patients are babies but we do get kids who menstruate sometimes geez. It was a whole hunt to get this poor young lady a pad. Then I had to teach the nurse looking after her how to apply the pad 🤦♀️ didnt think it was a lost art
I love doing the mega
😳
Me but replace g with m
I love doinm the mega
Also replace the v with an m
i lome doinm the mema
have noticed that i need more sleep now, used to be fine with just 7h, but i need 9h or 10h now
I can't sleep through the night for shit anymore. Waking up like 3 times until I get up too early because I am annoyed af. The girls hurting and me being prone to sleep on my stomach does probably not help 😭
eepy princess gang
up with trans
UP WITH TRANS!
UP WITH TRANS
UP WITH TRANS
UP WITH TRANS
i love to show my non-hobbyist wife minis i haven’t finished painting and they just go “oooh ahhhhh” i feel so proud :))
i show pics of them to my mom and dad, who both love them and say how tough all the lil details must be, and i feel so nice
your detail work is crazy, i love those wings and the little gems (soulstones?) on your elder
awh ty
yea i try to make all the soulstones blue with a lil white dot in them to make them pop
love the mega pic and theme, look forward to seeing everything through the week!
New mega! I've never heard of Donelan before, so I'll have to look up more of his stuff.
