Couldn't agree more
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LadyButterfly she/her
196Is this guy Mr Triangle?
Buffy the Vampire Slayer’s least toxic love interest.
They think it makes them look strong
Conformity > ~~morality~~ all
My partner was saying how it seems like most men cant look at a woman without also thinking about sex with them.
Idk how true that is but it might explain some of the anger towards trans women. Since men cant just think about them, men also have to think about having sex with them, and since so many men are extremely homophobic and dont consider trans women to be women, that would make them gay. And being being considered gay is worse than anything else in the world.
TL:DR Most men cant help but think about bangin' trans women and they think that makes them gay. Which is a fate worse than death for them.
My partner was saying how it seems like most men cant look at a woman without also thinking about sex with them.
As a man I feel that way sometimes, sex is always on my mind. But like, if I look at a woman I'm not attracted to I just ... don't want to have sex with them. They're still a person who I can have platonic interactions with. Same for the vast majority of women who I would like to have sex with who don't feel the same way about me. I think this is the part the misogynist/transphobic dudes struggle with, they can't get over themselves. For me the sexual thoughts are more often annoying than anything else and they're only one part of the "whole" that I think about women.
My other theory is that these people base their whole lives on conformity. The second they see people doing things outside the norm, and which bring them some semblance of joy, they get pissed off knowing that they are too weak to break out of the mold and be happy, too.
In reality, it’s a combination of many of these kinds of things. A LOT of anger often comes from sadness, and boy do these people hate letting themselves be happy.
Ahhh! I like cocks! - them, probably
I don't know how other men are but generally when I see someone (of any genre) there's like an automatic evaluation - not in words or conscious - that flags like "are they a threat? Are they hot?" and a bunch of other stuff. It's just part of the "what am I looking at?" reflex in the brain.
But I don't, like, linger on it. Don't play out in my head what sex would be like, or how to defend myself if they pulled a knife, or whatever.
To make a computer metaphor, some attributes are eagerly loaded and others lazily. I think attractiveness is eagerly loaded.
Also I'm comfortable enough not to feel threatened by finding people attractive.
I had a friend that, when talking about this, seemed like their brain didn't eagerly load the same things. They didn't "know" if someone was hot until they thought about it, and were confused how that information was just there for me.
My brain operates only on "are they a threat", and within that is "are they a friend". I can name only a handful of people I find attractive if I'm pressed, but it's always on a "this human is art" level.
I'm aroace, though, which likely is why I don't evaluate people for hotness
What dat mean, aroace
Aromantic asexual, not feeling / feeling little romantic and sexual arraction towards other people.
You might be on to something there. The frustration of cognitive dissonance can manifest as anger if people don't know how to process it.
You don't have to "be a fan" in order to support someone's right to exist.
I have a cousin who is transphobic in the sense that he is very uncomfortable around trans people. He cannot get past it and avoids interactions because he's so uncomfortable. He also defends trans rights at every turn, publicly and without hesitation. Trans rights are human rights. Full stop.
I feel a bit similar with nonbinariness. Not uncomfortable but maybe unconvinced. But fucking hell, it's not something worth hating anyone over. And like most things that I'm unconvinced by, it won't prevent me from treating anyone politely. You've got to be a certain kind of fucked to let it get to you to that level, or worse, to whip up that kind of sentiment in others
I appreciate what you're saying. It'd be great if more people were discerning with their placement of hate and understanding of how it propagates.
I do wonder if being 'convinced' is really all that important?
Personally, I think it's sort of beside the point (which I think is exactly what you're saying).
I guess what I'm wondering is: can we ever expect to be 'convinced' of every true experience? I think for me to be unabashedly 'convinced' of anything, I'd have to be able to identify with it personally. In a "I think therefore I am" sort of way. Your experience is the only one you know exists for sure yea?
Yet, I am consistently surprised as to the complexity of feelings when they become a reality for me. My takeaway is that I can't hope to have true understanding of how any other person feels.
I can imagine what it's like to lose a loved one, a pet, a job. I might judge someone based on their emotional response to an event. But, when it happens to me, I suddenly get it.
I get how much I could never 'get' before.
It is like adding a whole other dimension, a new axis, to my world. Think how a 3rd demensional object just just never be expressed in a 2d world. It's like adding a new cone to your eye, or waking up and having the nose of a dog. There is just unfathomable complexity in the world, and we each take in just an extremely small portion of it at a time. New experiences, for me anyway, can often feel so novel in a 'wow I was just so naive' sort of way.
I just can't trust my understanding of the complexity of human experience enough to think that I even have the capacity to imagine all of them.
How could someone who has never tried chocolate, really get what it tastes like? They just don't, and can't, not unless they actually experience it for themselves. And even then, no two experiences are quite the same; one person loves candy corn, the other hates it. Entirely different experience of taste, with the same stimuli.
All that is to say, I think that we are in agreement that whether or not we are "convinced" of any one reality, it's really not the point. We just have to be convinced that our reality isn't the only one.
We are all different! We will never get it all! But hopefully we can get that other people have different feelings than us, and that causing other people pain sucks!
So, be tolerant.
Yeah, the trans issue really isn't on my personal pressing issue radar, but I'll do what I can to shut any trans hate down when I witness it.
and healthcare
we want healthcare too
and education on the fact that we exist so that we can access the healthcare at the start of puberty in a timely manner
The masses need to wake up and realize that the things being denied to us are just a test run for things that will be denied them as well in due time.
And decent employment is important too. Would kinda suck if future job security would delay important decisions.
Universal basic income would be even better, but that seems even more unlikely...
I thought this was about Gaza for a second.
Still applies.
"Many such cases"
The occupy movement should have been way more specific and specified which one percent.
Cool, but iff this was true all around then he wouldn't be working with Zionists.
Speedrunning lemmy ban world record.
This seems more like an “if” situation than an “iff” situation. He could have other reasons to stop working with zionists.
Seems okay to me
In a brand new never before seen development, an .ml user is seeking ideological purity
Okay, that got an audible chuckle from me.
When the Nazis love you because you divide and sabotage the left
This is such a fun tankie bingo board moment. How did we get from Pedro Pascal to Ukraine? We gonna non sequitour our way to Iran next?
The "purity your way to achieving something" square remains empty...
Let's not let perfection be the enemy of progress. He yet lives and may yet keep learning and growing.
Perfection exists.
No it doesn't. It's an idea. It's as far away from humanity as any integer is from infinity. Also, I can't believe I have to tell you this, but Javier Bardem and Pedro Pascal are not the same person. They have lived different lives, had different experiences, learned and grew in different ways. If we just demonized people for not being there yet, your mother would have strangled you in the crib for shitting yourself instead of changing your diaper for you.
Your logic gave us genocide and Trump.
Yikes. Blocked.
Yikes. Blocked.
LPT: save yourself a lot of trouble by blocking as soon as you see the .ml instance
Rich that someone posting on a marxist-leninist instance cares about ideological purity and genocide.
Holy shit, my sides
You talking about his role in Wonder Woman 2?
I just looked into this, Neil Druckmann set up the WLF-Seraphite conflict as the allegory. No dehumanization there, at least, and the WLF (IDF stand in) is shown repeatedly in a negative light. I won’t blame the guy for where he was born.
Any idea of what the "L" stands for in ".ml"?
Lenin? Your point is going right over my head
Yeah, I figured it would.
You dont find anything odd in decrying genocide while repping someone whose government was responsible for similar attrocities?
