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I was in VRChat and we were talking about autism and I don't remember how exactly it happened but I ended up calling my dad in VR and asking him if the reason I got taken for "physical therapy" at school for several years after I learned to write (originally it was because I'm left handed but didn't have enough muscles and motor control to write well) and my dad confirmed that it was to help me develop and I never realized.
They had an inside swing, a big ol weighted blanket, a bean bag, putty of different thicknesses to strengthen hand muscles, fidget toys, and the "teacher" had a cool little glass sphere on her desk that had live coral in it. She said there used to be a shrimp but it died. tbh even as an adult I'd love to go back there and just mess around with all the different toys. I still have one she gave me at the end of the school year.
The person I was talking to in VRChat thought it was so funny I never noticed that he friended me and we became good friends for a while. I even visited him to go to formula drift together (drifting cars but a ranked competition)
It makes me so happy thinking back to adults in education helping out kids. It's awesome you loved the coloring room.
For me my teacher taught me a English herself in these on one one English assessments.
And it was really nice to step out and be with her for a couple mins (English was my 3rd language)
You guys get Autism tests?!
In 4th grade back in the mid late 90es, my teacher knew something was up, but i don't think he knew exactly what. I was pretty good at hiding my quirks, knowingly or not. But i think the thing that stood out was when we went skiing or something and i had to fumble out my skipass while people were waiting, i had a lot of trouble with that. Same thing when you have to put the money away while other people were waiting. They thought i had problems with my fine motoric or whatever. Part of me was happy that they find out what was wrong with me, part of me was worried. I wrbt into a room witb a dude and he was like: can you clap your hands? I said yes. He asked can you clap really fast? I said yes. Ge said: can you show me? And i did. He said: eeh, he's fine.
And that was it for me.
Wow, that sounds like a dream.. I wish I would have been helped like that when I was little. It cheers me up to know that somewhere they at least once did things like this.. :)
Interesting I didn't get diagnosed until I turned 33. Also had physical therapy for my left handed writing and used to have lots of trouble tying my shoes.
Many (still a minority) schools have a room and assigned teacher for this,
Its definitely not just for autism but for any kid that needs a little extra help without the distraction of their usual class.
It even sounds like you did not go for autism either, but it is related.
Last year i learned about Dcd
Its a neurological disorder that makes it harder to learn certain motor and coordination skills like writing, riding a bike, using scissors (being a lefty really doesn’t help either).
Dcd is considered a separate disorder, but 80% of the people who are diagnosed autism also fit the criteria for dcd (some claim up to 90%)
(Edit: added a source )
The good thing is that with proper guidance kids can learn to perform these skills just as good as everyone else. So these special classes in the first years of elementary school are really important. I am glad you had them, I hadn’t and my handwriting shows it.
I knew half my family was autistic for years, but know i recognise many suffered dcd also.
Fuuuck is that why I'm so bad with handwriting, painting and chopsticks?? Given the amount of extra help classes I went to, that, and my general weirdness I'm frankly amazed I never got diagnosed with anything
Its definitely not just for autism but for any kid that needs a little extra help without the distraction of their usual class.
my dad on the call described it as a "we know this one is wonky" instead of a hard diagnosis as you could only get officially diagnosed at 10yo iirc (at least at the time)
Last year i learned about Dcd
that's really cool and something I will look into but ngl my first reaction was "oh fuck not another acronym of a mental disorder to memorize" because I have so many already xD
I had the same acronym reaction, but DCD is also known as dyspraxia, which has been gaining awareness the last few years :)
Thaaaat's why I had to spend time kicking a ball on an elastic band and playing with putty!
Also why I confuse left and right a lot and change dominant hands for different tasks!
Huh, the more you know.
Probably also explains why I am near insensate to a lot of pain but will actually kill anyone who splashes me with cold water.
!autismmemes@lemmy.zip
Since teaching about this, I've come to appreciate these kinds of rooms. Actually, I wish I had a low sensory room growing up (the type for sensory disorders); I was and still kinda am easily overstimulated so it's the kind of thing I can get behind.
That said, IEPs and the stigma they bring can easily be a bad thing too depending on school, hence why it's the "coloring room." I was already ostracized by 2nd grade for being weird with the sand box, though, so kinda moot in my case (I spent all my time sorting out rocks from sand and dust).
dude I'm so jealous of the kids that had the teachers with low light rooms, I had an English teacher do that for a semester in HS and it was awesome
I am glad that I don't have a condition where I have to have lights like that though
That just made me remember the time I was taken to a room kind of like that in 1st grade with a few other disabled kids but I was only there for an hour and they never took me back and I didn't understand why. I did see a professional about autism last year and I didn't go for a full diagnosis because I don't want it on my record, but I did get enough of a confirmation that I'm quite positive I'm autistic, but I guess I'm just not enough to get taken back to the fun room.
Schools actually don't just check for autism, they also only offer diagnoses and treatment that they actually have on hand. It's just as likely that you did test positive; they just didn't have enough room for you compared to the more serious cases.
Did you ride a short school bus? ;)
thankfully I'm high functioning enough to go to normal classes, but I have a friend that did! he's pretty cool
last I talked to him he just bought a broken motorcycle to sell for scrap
honestly I feel like he's high functioning enough to have gone to regular school but he was raised in a pretty red state and wasn't taught how to manage emotions that well as a kid, so they just lumped him in there instead of giving better support :(
I don't get it.
OP went through a functional assessment and/or rehab as a kid without being told what it was
I feel like the story explains it that OP was somewhat developmentally delayed and never realized it because they didn't explain to them that they were having developmental issues.
Based on the art and everything else, seems like they caught up just fine, but now they're just dealing with the realization of what events in their childhood meant.
yeah I wasn't officially diagnosed at the time and a few years later once I was diagnosed I got it all explained but I never connected the dots between the special class and my disability
I feel like naming a kid Tate is just asking for autism
