POV: You have a spray bottle next to the bed
(midwest.social)
Wren to 
WomensStuff
Transcript: A woman having sex to avoid sulking, tantrums, passive aggression, guilt-tripping or abandonment is not consenting — she's being coerced. That's not a relationship. That's sexual servitude under emotional duress, and far too many women have been conditioned to believe this is what compromise looks like. It's not.
Yes, consent has to be enthusiastic
If they cheat, it's your fault for not putting out! (And not theirs for neither dealing with it nor breaking up.)
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Or another one... They don't pay their half of the rent because you're not fulfilling your duties. Or they force themselves on you and they tell you that you need to "get over it" because "they have needs" and it is "abusive to withhold sex."
Oh yes when I was married I often did it so my ex would stop pouting and sulking and treat me like a human again for 2-3 days. I’m glad people are starting to put this into words and no longer tolerating it.
I wish people talked about sex more. Not with me lol, but with each other. And that more cishet couples knew more about different types of sexual activities beyond PiV (porn style oral doesn't count unless you like it I guess?)
While of course it's okay to not want to have sex, wonder how much the sex being awful has to do with it. Or the thought that sex means your partner is doing stuff to you.
I hope for better for the future 💕
And if you point it out he just says “no I’m not” and that’s the end conversation cause you’ll get more of the same for daring to speak up about it.
Spoken like a true child. I once got a "This is bad for my self esteem," when I didn't want to have sex.
But fucking a guy I don’t like isn’t bad for mine? It’s like they can’t accept being likable is part of their responsibility in a relationship
I'm old, so this type of behavior is super normalized in my brain. But! I am so glad the next generation is pushing back on this type of thing - it makes me so happy to see the progress.
Yep! Most women I know in long term relationships with men consider sex a chore a lot of the time. And that's with good men. We shouldn't have to do this
It's what I was taught when I started dating, that men always want sex and women have to decide whether or not to give it to them, which informed so many of my toxic and backward opinions at the time. I hope this mentality ends with my generation.
