I do hate the "decent me aren't sitting around worrying about being accused" not because it's not true, but because it's so easy to point at X Y or Z story where someone admitted they lied about the thing they accused a person of, but only years after the persons life was destroyed. Of course, the decent ones have no idea how to handle it BECAUSE they didn't have a reason to worry about it.

::: spoiler <personal anecdote> I myself have been accused of SAing a person at a party. The only party I ever went to in school consisted of show choir members chilling in a garage drinking, and only about half of us were drinking. Due to childhood trauma I cannot stand alcohol so I was one of the sober ones. When pointed out by someone else, the person almost immediately started backpeddaling to "it was a joke" but nobody laughed. Everyone was uncomfortable. And of course as more people hear about the event, the story gets diluted back to now people think I SAd someone when they've already said they lied about it. Not life ruining, but it very nearly got out of hand, and very quickly. The only reason I can think she thought to say that was she was mad at me for taking a solo in a song she wanted. Different friend groups, so the only thing we had in common was like 2 classes together. :::

"Decent men are not sitting around worrying about being accused."

I have seen and heard of enough men being falsely accused of something they didn't do, to not be worrying about it. A friend of mine once had a girl threatening to accuse him of rape. He was very confused because, as he said, she had been sitting on top for most of the act. Turned out she had a boyfriend, and said boyfriend had found out she had cheated on him. So now her plan was to falsely accuse my friend of rape to save her own ass.

Another story was of a girl who had been missing for a very long time. At some point, someone thought they had heard someone cry for help in their neighbors house and that someone had said their name was the name of the missing girl. The police searched every inch of the house, breaking up the floors and walls in search for hidden rooms. They didn't find anything and the man who lived there was cleared of any suspicion. Well, technically. Because that poor man had to move far away due to the neighborhood harassing him because they still thought he had something to do with the crime. The missing girl was found murdered some years later and the real perpetrator was captured.

But this just show that even decent men have to worry about being accused.

I'm on a solo camping trip across the country, and have had to leave two campgrounds because men kept inching closer to my camp and scoping me out in ways that made me feel very uncomfortable. It's different than when men see my car or tent and want to engage with me about it, that's a very direct and friendly approach and I'm always happy to have those conversations. This was very predatory feeling, and now I'm keeping defensive things in my pockets at all times :/