Anon is an introvert
(midwest.social)
š¹Early to RISA š§
Greentextnewsflash: if youre online youre an introvert. no exceptions
I've travelled to a few countries in Europe. Spain may not be Latin America, but it definitely seemed to have a noticeably more extroverted culture than the other countries I visited: multiple strangers started talking to me on the streets and in grocery stores and such, even though my Spanish is terrible, and I remember even the bus drivers being particularly friendly.
I always wondered how it is to be an introvert in such "loud" cultures. Now my guess is confirmed.
On the other hand, growing up in this kind of culture, I've now been forged into the rare introvert who can dance, sing, and has amazing people skills when needed.
It's draining, but useful.
Move to England, we will still think you are an extrovert
In Finland you'll be treated for mania
I felt this way in my own home culture as well. I grew up in a red bubble in a blue state in the US, where the underlying currents were no more than āconformity and hometown pride.ā Oddly, the only things to be āproudā of were conformity itself and high school football (the pride-surrogate of adults with nothing better to celebrate.) It was all so hollow, and when 9/11 happened it all turned up toā¦ well, 11. Being 12 and saying, āI donāt think this war makes senseā was enough to ostracize oneās self and be bombarded with the brain-dead argument of, āiF yOu hAtE AMURICA tHeN yOu cAn JuSt LEAVE!ā Yeah okay, parrot. It was always obvious the kids just absorbed whatever mindless take their parents said (which was, itself, picked up from other people or Fox News.)
Man, thinking of my hometown always brings out a rantā¦ Anyway, I grew up always feeling like a stranger in my own home, bullied and cast aside for not being like the rest. Thank goodness I was able to GTFO and meet people who use their brains as more than a copy/paste bin for other peopleās thoughts.
lol. same upbringing. nobody understands how common this is in most of small town america. probably because they only 'small towns' they are familiar with are all the tourist spots, which are not really small town at all because they are full of city people.
i went from being suicidal everyday to actually being happy and feeling good... because i got out. I was in tears i was so happy my first week in college, of being free from all that horrible ignorant bullshit. people really do not get how utterly provincial these places are.
god my primary/secondary education was so AWFUL too. nobody in the entire system had any legit knowledge. it was all just deadbeat losers whose biggest goal and achievement in was going to a pro sports game and being bitter about life that other people actually did something with theirs.
sadly a lot of my friends dropped out of college because it was 'too hard' to think for themselves and they ended up moving home, getting shitty local jobs usually working for their dad, and just popping out 2-3 kids by 24 and just repeating the cycle.
I grew up in the US from the age of five and the level of culture shock that hit me in kindergarten when no one knew who the fuck Manchester United was and that's not a real jersey etc etc etc. it had Best on the back and everyone thought it meant i thought I was the best and I still remember that feeling today.
Move to Wisconsin
Oh god. Very close to me. Exactly why I left and refuse to date latinas and for the most part make friends with latinos.
A bit over the top tho. You can definetly be a ladies man even if you don't dance. Not easy as if you dance, but totally doable.
Now to the serious thing:
Fake: Anon has internet in Colombia Gay: Anon dosn't like booty.
~~Before you downvote me, I am Colombian and don't really dance to anything remotely latin~~
Fake: Anon has internet in Colombia Gay: Anon dosnāt like booty.
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As a Brazilian, I can relate
Never felt more identified with a post. I've been saying this for a while and all they tell me is "just dance!" :(
i was born in the wrong country (literally, the instrument i am famous for is not called AMERICAN [blankety blank] okay famous is the wrong word the two hundred people in the world who take my instrument seriously know who i am because the dude who invented the technique named after me with me thought naming it after me was really funny because you can spell my name with the notes of the musical scale but you know what i mean)
Op would love Finland. Only ever talked to one stranger (who is now my wife) and the only thing we shake is the umbrella. And booze, well you will need it too.
introverted and alcoholic? Please tell me more about this wonderful place called Finland
Their mountains so lofty
Their treetops so tall
Nah they don't have any mountains in Finland. The trees are great though.
Only ever talked to one stranger
Scandalous!
no. Scandinavian
What is the umbrella reference about?
It's referencing back to the original post about girls shaking their asses
Umbrella gets wet. Ya shake it. ĀÆ_(ć)_/ĀÆ
Is that a Finnish thing or just the first thing you thought to shake?
There is no innuendo if you are looking for an innuendo. He's literally talking about shaking the rain off an umbrella. He's happily married and neither his wife nor he like to dance so they don't shake anything but their umbrella. Get it?
Finnish people do not shake hands.
What else do you shake on a fairly common basis, I suppose you also shake the bottle to get every last drop out. So it's bottle or umbrella.
Polaroid picture
Hey ya
When you go inside you shake the water out of the umbrella so it doesn't drip inside your house. Yeah, that's it, no reference or anything.
Yeah but like, is that somehow Finnish?
Yea finnished being in the rain
I think you're confused why he brought up shaking anything at all, what you're missing is that he brought up shaking an umbrella as a reply to the OP image that talks about shaking booty aka dancing.
The Finnish thing is that they don't shake booty. The umbrella being the only thing they shake was just a way to highlight that they aren't dancing like Colombians.
It's worldwide. Everyone around the world who has used an umbrella has shaken rain off an umbrella. Are you an alien from another solar system?
Maybe from Saudi Arabia? No umbrella-shaking in Saudi Arabia.
go to google.
type in "rainy day in Saudi Arabia"
click on images
To be fair, if you go out to a loud party you're not likely to meet many introverts there - they'll all be at home, unless their own extravert friend dragged them out to the party.
Was going to say, I've been to more than a few parties with the Introvert Corner. Half a dozen folks just hiding in the kitchen or on the patio, trying to survive the night with minimal social contact.
Reggaeton is a psyop to kidnap our culture
It's a similar experience being an introvert who isn't into sports in Australia.
I'm mostly baffled that when people don't even understand the concept of "not liking sports" I have a lot of smalltalk at work with dudes and it's always something like: wait, so you have no idea who won the football game? What happened?
Oh i don't watch football.
Never?
Nope, i have never seen a football match.
Huh. So you just watch the big games.
No, never.
But you watch the World championship.
No.
Not even when your country plays?
Is it still millionaires chasing a ball in a really boring manner? Then still no.
It's not even just sports, somehow, some people can't comprehend that someone doesn't like or even know of "insert mainstream thing". C'mon, stop pretending you don't know famous artist who sells out stadiums. For fucks sake, why would i? I maybe read their name at some point or maybe a song was once playing in a mall, but other than that we don't live the same life.
Turns out these people identify with the teams and feel a victory as if it was their own. The "We won!" crowd. Some other folks have a stronger separation between self and other and don't have any emotional attachment with some sports team that did something.
Turns out these people identify with the teams and feel a victory as if it was their own.
to be fair, they make financial contributions to the club via merch, ticket sales, etc, which in turn impacts the success a team can achieve by spending that money
I once talked with my date about football and she said, well, when there is a really big game, she likes to watch, otherwise not really. And i asked why, it's the same game. And she said, she doesn't really know, she just likes to cheer for a team and hopes that they win. Which i found interesting. It's like gambling, but boring and stretched out. When i was younger and people asked me what my team was, i always asked which team is the best, or winning, and that was my answer. Then you get so much shit for being a bandwagon fan. Like dude, you are cheering for a team that has been losing for 10 years like your life depends on it, get a grip.
Fine, if you don't like sports we can talk about the stock market. Tesla and Palantir, bro. Oil futures to the moon. Selling reverse vix puts. Alpha beta gamma I'm going to be rich.
I often think about just fighting fire with fire.
Do you think the God emperor is needed to power the warp or is that juat propaganda?
What do you mean you don't know warhammer?
So you only know the lore before the warp?
Surely you know the Horus heresy?
That's weird, there are like 300 books about it.
Do it.
Man, those crypto bros somehow have even less self awareness than the sports dudes
Whatās your favorite looks maxxing hammer?
Can't go wrong with the classic sledge
āBall-Peenā hehehehe
I hate that the end of every news segment on radio and TV ends in "sports".
Sports is not fucking news. Stop wasting our fucking time perpetuating a tribalist game
What exactly did you think the political section was about?
Sport is politics in Europe, at least. It's important who you support because sports clubs are often tied to political movements.
You don't want to support Lazio, for instance, and Real Madrid was Franco's club.
Anyway, politics is also a sort of game as you say.
Football hooliganism must be the endgame of "everything is political." I see it as something to preferably be avoided personally.
Not every European country. Iād wager itās mostly Southern and Eastern Europe where that is the case.
True, though there's also FC St. Pauli (antifascist) vs Hansa Rostock (neonazi). Can't think of anything from Denmark, off the top of my head, or the UK. Not much of a football fan tbh.
In the UK itās tied to social class rather than political party.
indeed, came to point this out, nothing much has changed in 1000s of years though. Pie 'n footy os the new Bread 'n Circuses.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bread_and_circuses
Juvenal originally used it to decry the "selfishness" of common people and their neglect of wider concerns. The phrase implies a population's erosion or ignorance of civic duty as a priority
Loving in Has main a the biggest concern of the public is a es AFL football stadium and yet we have the worst health outcomes, the worst educational outcomes etc etc
Loving in Has main a the biggest concern of the public is a es AFL football stadium
Have a small aneurysm there?
must've played too much AFL
I'm an ambivert. I'm also not particularly into watching a good percentage of sports, but I'll pretty much go to anything if a friend asks if I want to join them going to an event or even just watch it with them somewhere.
Doesn't really just apply to sports either, up for anything really: gigs, art exhibitions, hikes, cinema, visiting a random town for some reason, you name it.
Firstly, I can't exactly knock something until I've given it a good go, but more importantly for me, it's time I get to spend with one/some of my mates and might result in some good memories. Reminder that introversion is not the same thing as social anxiety, introverts generally also like to hang out with their friends.
Plus I also like photography, so random days out are a good way to get pictures you wouldn't otherwise.
And extroverts can be socially anxious. I need to go out and talk to people and do things, but fuck am I awkward about it
Oh yeah, I definitely know the difference between social anxiety and introversion. Social anxiety is when it's intensely uncomfortable to even talk to my dad, or my partner. Introversion is being capable of having a nice day all on my own, but still being totally up for hanging out with friends, as long as I get time alone often enough in between.
Ironically I even like sporting events if me and my friends are actually there in the stadium. The feel of the crowd is magical. But that's not really about the sport
I understand anon. I understand. š¶
anywhere densely populated really
I can feel this to an uncomfortable level.
Same thing in sweden when I grew up there, except nobody dances, nobody did booty shakes, only football and drinking šš.
I left.
To be fair American culture is also mostly football and drinking
Don't forget Jesus, racism and military cosplay.
I really liked the Jodel app many years ago. Hyperlocal social media that led me to meet and interact with quite a few interesting people that i would never meet in a bar. Okay i am maybe not that introvert, but i hate disco shaky booty
I'm in a similar boat, but I guess thanks to where I work I haven't had that much of a problem, STEM still has some dancers and partiers as well as a lot of soccer fans, but thankfully we can talk about many other subjects too
Youāre a techie vegetarian and you attempt to stifle your inborn bigotry? Are you reallyā¦ ::: spoiler spoiler Iām not doxxing myself lmao :::
People should dance more. It really does make things a bit more tolerable.
People should (insert any random activity here) more. It really does make things a bit more tolerable.
Dancing with trusted people, yes. But in many/most places, how you dance is subject to social stigma, which is much much worse than any benefit of dancing.
And if you only know the stigma-attached dancing, then it poisons "healthy" dance for you, because humans think of the bad thing first.
My Latino friends say the stigma doesn't exist.
My doubt is palpable...
People always like to think of themselves that they aren't judgy and totally inclusive and tolerant. But it's a natural human behavior to judge others and make it known. Most people think of themselves and say they don't judge, but in the background, subconsciously, still do it.
So your doubt is probably justified. You have to get the real answer from how your friends actually behave, not from what they think or say.
As someone who never dances, almost entirely due to social anxiety, I think you'd actually find that most people don't care what you look like while dancing (unless it's a competition or something). That's really the key, from what I understand: stop giving a fuck about whether you look silly or not. Most of the people already dancing look silly, they have just learned to not care and enjoy it.
As I said, easier said than done of course. Alcohol can definitely help.
Oh, I know that. Doesn't change my statement though, what I said is what's happening; how to handle it, I didn't really want to go into.
But yes, the solution is to not give a fuck, like you say. But that's only the second best solution, the first one is for that not to be necessary in the first place.
