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TransfemHey everyone~~
oh no, it's been two months since I've posted anything around here, when I was looking for help. Seems like I'm way less interested in being terminally online when I'm living my best life.
So just a quick catch up: Been wearing skirts out pretty much exclusively and am loving it. Strangers have been less derogatory than I expected, I can still count the vocally bad encounters on my fingers. Something I didn't consider for a second in the anxiety around this I've had before - there's also people who just treat me better, warmer than I'm used to. Mostly women, actually.
Thanks to your kind advice I took more control over my journey, which felt incredibly good, mostly. Was lucky enough to find a gynecologist who gave me a private prescription of my first estradiol gel following informed consent, more or less. Dosage is on the low end, planning on increasing next week and hopefully adding some blockers into the mix.
Also contacted some more therapists and found someone very kind, who sent me the written indication I need to get access to HRT through health care. It got lost in the mail, though, second attempt should be out tomorrow x).
Last but not least, started a new job (software engineering, of course), which is exhausting, but also a pretty nice opportunity. That old trade-off, time or money, pick one - yikes. Had some downers lately as well, dysphoria is kicking in really bad at times, but I'll manage.
Well, today was a very special day. I went to the local registry office and officially changed my name and gender. It took three months of waiting and now I own an updated birth certificate with my new name and identity.
Didn't really expect this, but I can hardy describe how good that felt - I've had literal tears of joy. I'm not sure I ever had these, from laughing maybe, but not from pure, unadulterated joy. Such an amazing relief, to finally be able to do the paperwork to get rid of that old name.
One of my best friends accompanied me today, he was really sweet. He gave me a small rag doll and a lighter, explained that's deadname and I shall burn him and bury him somewhere. Absolutely gonna do that :>
Well, that's all for now, just had to shout this out somewhere.
Thanks for being here and being yourselves <3
He gave me a small rag doll and a lighter, explained that’s deadname and I shall burn him and bury him somewhere.
That's amazing, I'm taking notes
One of my best friends accompanied me today, he was really sweet. He gave me a small rag doll and a lighter, explained that’s deadname and I shall burn him and bury him somewhere. Absolutely gonna do that
You could also, you know, give it to a fae 😉
Sorry, but wdym x)?
Congrats!
Congrats!
Congrats!
And be careful with that HRT doc. Remember, poor care is the rule, not the exception, of trans medicine. Take everything that your doc says with a grain of salt, trust but verify.
For example, NEVER simply trust your doctor when they say "your levels are fine." There are plenty of doctors out there that don't actually respect your identity or transition. They don't want to help you achieve the best results possible. They just view you as a deranged male, and they'll humor your and try to prescribe you the minimum dose to prevent you from self-harm. That's the only value they see in HRT; they don't actually see having a good transition outcome as something worth pushing for. You and their goal may not be the same. Your levels can be fine for the doctor's goal while completely inappropriate for your goal. Do not assume you and your doctor want the same thing.
DO NOT simply trust the doctor when they say "your levels are fine." Demand to see the actual numbers yourself. Your E levels should be testing at trough in the 200-300 range.
Remember kids, don't be female illegally!
Congrats op!
Pssssst, don't tell anyone, but I've secretly been a woman all my life.
Hid it so good, that I've had no clue myself!
legally female, illegally fuck gender, got rid of that shittt >>:3
also congrats opp!! slayyy
Be fem, do crime.
Congratulations!
