Shaleesh [she/her, comrade/them]
traaaaaaannnnnnnnnnsInternational Transgender Day of Visibility (TDoV) is a day for celebrating the lives of transgender people, recognizing the contributions we make to society and rallying against the discrimination we face. TDoV also functions as a counterpart to the International Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR)^[TDoR is observed on November 20th and memorializes those of us who's lives were stolen by transphobic violence, particularly trans women of color. TDoR was initially founded in 1999 in remembrance of Rita Hester, Chanelle Pickett, and Monique Thomas, three black trans women who were murdered in the Boston area.]; with TDoR being a somber occasion and TDoV having a more celebratory nature.
For this week, in observation of TDoV, I invite you all, the posters in our community to write a little bit about the celebration of trans lives.
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Going to see my sister in the hospital (she's okay!) with my parents. I put my foundation and tinted lip balm on for work this morning and considered packing a wipe to take it off during transit but then decided you know what fuck it, if my mom tries to make this about her and me I can shut that down well enough.
Independently toying with the idea of coming out to my dad on the way there or back... It being the day of visibility does tempt me. I might dip my toes in just to gauge thing, put some feelers out. I'm also hanging out with my brother this weekend and intend to tell him then.
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You know despite my positive comment earlier during the day I'll spend TdoV being completely alone and discussing things with mental health people (trust me, it will not be fun). No, I will not be girlmodding.
And I've been utterly unable to do absolutely anything girly since the failed coming out so yeah. Idk what I'm being positive about.
::: spoiler suicide
I don't even want to do anything girly because it feels like I'm setting up expectations for my life being something better and right now, I'm at least killing myself "peacefully". A corpse-like creature going through the motions of life. Zombie?
I can't talk to this about anybody irl. Because well it doesn't feel like it helps. Nobody has any real tips for me. Nobody can solve the root problem. It takes ages for the medical system to even begin "processing" me. Like I'm going through it but it's april! I began my latest rounds of talk in January and tommorow I will have my first talk with a half-way specialised team who will hand me over to a more specialised team.
I don't want to go to a doctor anymore. I don't want to be shuffled around. I don't want to be examined and have to lay bare my vulnerabilities to someone I don't trust. It's not like I ever shared the full story. Don't think I will ever tell another person.
Am tired. Really tired.
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::: spoiler brain worms Eternal genocide on the terms AGP/HSTS and all associated theories I was just reading through this elder (70s) trans woman's blog and oh my God half of this shit is two steps away from phrenology :::
::: spoiler worms Blanchard still posts on X the everything app too lol :::
FUCK
Is it too much to ask for a gay pair?
I'm making art for a post for tomorrow that my collective decided on. It doesn't look great, but it's what I managed in a hurry.
Still happy we get to post trans stuff. Me being trans and all. We should probably do some pride stuff in June too
visibility is cool and all but i could really get shit done with a single day of invisibility
Finally just got estrogen!!
SICK! what method?
Pills right now, will change to injections later tho
Theres been some trouble getting the vials i ordered shipped, so while i wait another girl offered to give some pills for the time :3
That's the way to go imo, congrats!
Nice!
Congrats!!!
So happy for you! E is absolutely life-changing
Yess im v excited for whats to come
Congrats! Should make remembering your bHRTday easy.
True lol, maybe i can make my friends get me double pizza for both Buy a Trans Woman a Pizza Day and for bhrtday hehehe >:3
I started right after the solstice, so I decided to celebrate it in every solstice.
Mines just a random day (April 12). I did consider waiting to start until exactly 6 months away from my birthday if that happened to be coming up soon, but it wasn't, so I didn't.
I thought TDoV was a week ago because of the GDQ Hotfix event last weekend. Spent that weekend boymoding (as usual) visiting family and the topic of drag & crossdressers came up, which surprisingly didn't turn into a bunch of transphobia.
GDQ certainly is an event with a lot of trans visibility, I'll give you that.
Mainline GDQ has a fair bit, but I was referring to TDoV event from last weekend that Quacksilver and Helix host:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lJDIOJaeHGc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8-VsYOPWdh4
I found YouTube links in your comment. Here are links to the same videos on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:
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A friend let me down last Friday and I know it'd be the gracious thing to accept the apology and say it's okay, but I don't want to. I really hate being shunted to the side when more important things come up. Think I'll ice her out a little longer. Already relapsed pretty severely so not like there's much further to fall in terms of poor behavior...
Why be cruel?
Because I'm frustrated and mad at her and perhaps letting her sit with that will yield some introspection on how much my feelings actually matter to her
Intellectually I know it's unnecessary and catty... But I always play the part of understanding and reconciliation. Surely I can indulge a little?
Why not just to talk to he about how you feel? You'll only breed resentment this way
It probably wont feel as good as you imagine it will, and worse will almost certainly not lead to introspection vrs just saying "hey, I feel like I don't matter to you when you ice me out and youve done that to me a lot lately"
Also you dont like have to accept an apology
Maybe by next TDoV I'll have hrt :3
Don't be afraid to DIY, it's not that complicated.
Why don't you diy?
I know it's tomorrow but I don't expect anyone I'm out to will say anything about it to me, kinda dumb to be upset/whatever about it but it would be nice. I mean I obviously don't blame anyone and don't expect anyone will but idk. I do wish they'd recognize my bravery about coming out to them. A couple did at the time though which was nice. Idk.
Life isn't perfect, but I love being trans and wouldn't change it for the world.
Happy (early) trans day of visibility!
::: spoiler bottom dysphoria, kinda shitty So apparently they mapped all the nerves of the clit, and that's great for cis women, but fuck it makes me sad seeing headlines everywhere and reading the comments of women talking about anatomy I don't have and will never have. Being reminded of all the parts. Fuck me I'm sad. :::
::: spoiler spoiler Theres a lotta nerves down there post bottom surgery and I swear HRT changes some shit or something in that area anyway even before.
Its definitely okay to feel sad and dysphoric but dont knock the benefits of modern surgery and HRT. :::
Tomorrow is also the 4th annual Mira Bellwether Buy a Trans Woman a Pizza Day*, for all the gals who don't feel like being visibly trans or just love pizza* <3
* or other food of her choice!
down with cis
Down with cis
down with cis
Me on the trans day of visibility
transgender day of visibility!
Even on my worst days I'd rather be myself than mutilate my existence to "fit in"!
Every single painful experience I've ever been through, I'd go through it again to protect whatever little happiness I collected up. Ain't much at all, but it's still mine! (And for you )
Wow, I'm in a positive mood these days. Funny how that happens when you don't get kicked repeatedly in the crotch by random nonsense for a while.
I forgot that Fallout New Vegas let you pick hair color of a R G B 0 to 255 color chart. I started my character I was talking about. A trans lesbian. Settled on the name "Cobalt" and gave her Cobalt Blue hair (Green 71, Blue 171)
Went to the local gay bar for their trans day of visibility fundraising event with my nb partner tonight, we had a good time and they even bid on and won the movie night basket. We're gonna make a night of it lol.
Love all of my trans comrades on Hexbear. You make this place wonderful.
tdov!
up with trans!
up with trans!
