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AsklemmyWater usage is probably my biggest. Living in a high desert, my wife and MIL see no problem with filling one side of the sink with hot soapy water to wash a few dishes because “that’s just how I’ve always done it”, to watering the grass and plants for hours. All of this makes me mental.
Probably that Ørkenens Sønner was never funny.
I completely agree with you, though.
I want to share my photos of our trip with you, but I don't want you to upload them to Google, or apple, or amazon, or meta, or any social media.
If it's a pic of you, fine, do whatever you want. But please don't take my whole album and store it in your google photos.
To secure your stuff. Hacking and social engineering are both easier than you think and identity theft is devastating. I know most people here already know that, but having worked in tech support, it's unbelievably common to skip even the basics, not to mention my grandparents who think I'm just paranoid.
Even if you are paranoid it can happen to you
Sadly, paying attention isn’t always enough…
I ditched my smartphone over 5 years ago, and will NEVER go back. In fact, I don't have a phone of any kind. They are surveillance/psyop devices, and they are turning people into biological robots. The scifi show Dollhouse is basically where this is all heading.
You are my kind of people. I will check that show.
Using AI is amoral and I will never use it. As a programmer, every day it feels like I'm increasingly the minority.
Damned if you do and damned if you don't. Utilize the tools or you'll end up unemployed.
In all honesty, I don't think I could live with myself and, at least currently, think I'd rather find a new career path.
If you ever figure out what the path is let me know cuz any employable skills I have are going to be jobs affected by AI
It ain't trades because literally everyone is going to do that when AI kills all the other jobs
You cannot use an unethical mimicry tool in an ethical way. You are asking a theft engine to create for you based on others work.
What if you use it to hack the pentagon, end the war, and put out coordinated social media campaigns to enable people younger than 60 to be elected into in congress?
don't give up. you are not alone. patience is key and the time where deep understanding of technology will become essential again
Dating apps are inherently dehumanizing
The fact that you can filter by height but not weight says it all
They're also profit-incentivized to keep people single and on their platform for as long as possible.
I will not install your shitty app
The worst are the sites that just redirect you to the play/app store when visiting on mobile.
I'm surely NOT installing your fucking app after you give me a bad experience (by not showing me the content I've received a link to) while I'm a "guest visitor" to your site.
If someone is trying to sell me on a cafe or restaurant by saying, 'Yeah, it's kind of expensive, but there are great deals on the app...' it's no dice from me.
So real.
If I hear "I'm sure meta is a good company that will treat your data respectfully." one more time!
Taking a car for a 3km distance is unconscionable when walking or cycling are valid options.
Driving less than the speed limit will not kill you.
French cuisine is extremely overrated
Keep right except to pass. The passing lane is for passing.
The abortion debate will never be resolved.
This is mainly from the two sides arguing about different things.
Pro-life is about how a life starts at conception which means that abortion is murder. Pro-choice is about how women should have a choice to have an abortion.
Hasn't it already been resolved in a whole bunch of countries? I mean, sure there's still some folks that disagree with the outcome, but you've got folks disagreeing about the earth being round as well. If that's your bar for debates not having been resolved then I agree with you, but I'd also say you're not saying anything particularly interesting, disagreeable, or controversial.
You are right. I didn't specify in my original comment but I am more referencing the polarization in the US specifically.
But everything you're saying in the other posts is pretty generic and applies to the pro and anti abortion crowd in the other countries as well.
The debate will probably go somewhere if people took a moment to think about why murder is bad and why choice is important, then consider why that would or wouldn't apply to this specific scenario.
I don't think that will happen given the strongly held beliefs each side has as well as the polarization in this country.
It also does not help that there are politicians and news organizations out there that are happy to throw more fuel on the fire, driving a wedge deeper between two groups.
I believe a woman should have the right to abort the child as long as its under 18*12 months.
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I think Bernie was an idealist and I don’t buy in to a lot of his ideas while appreciating his work to create real change. Don’t crucify me for this.
I wholeheartedly believe there is an alternate timeline where Bernie won the 2016 democratic nomination and won the presidency and we avoided all this shit.
I think I agree, but I really don't think it matters. What, are Trump's ideas coherent or something? What I trust is Bernie's overall intent. He's kind of unique in this way because of his decades of consistent political sctivism. Had Bernie been elected in 2016 somehow and we got 8 years of Bernie, the US would still be a capitalist society. It just might be slightly better one.
I think a great example of naive ideas that have dominated political discussion on the left is student loan forgiveness. Like I'm not opposed - if PPP loan forgiveness is acceptable then student loan forgiveness is infinitely more acceptable. No brainer. But the complete lack of discussion about structural reform to the college tuition situation that causes people to need such huge student loans in the first place makes me think that the whole issue was to some extent controlled opposition.
You could have gotten 100 percent student loan forgiveness - the whole thing passed and done and student loans would immediately start to pile up again the next day. Probably even higher tuition too.
you are willing to die on this hill, but not through crucifixion?
Give them a break. They're not Jesus.
My biggest pet peeve is people who scalp their lawns and spray shit all over it to make it green and kill the bugs. If it didn't kill the buggies 'n stuff I wouldn't care so much but I'd still think it's dumb cause all they need to do is not mow so aggressively and plant some clover to fix the nitrogen. Like their lawn needs less maintenance not more. Stop fucking spraying shit all over your lawn please AAAAAAAAAAAAAA.
Hell yeah
The Cowboy Bebop remake by Netflix was mostly good. It failed because Netflix didn’t advertise “normies” correctly.
Hey, thanks! I had been avoiding that. Does it end well enough?
That depends what you want in the ending. If you want something more like the anime, no.
To me the biggest weakness of the show is the Vicious/Julia storyline. Any episode where the crew is chasing bounties is top notch though so it balances out.
Weird, I actually liked the Vicious/Julia story line. And the actors are top notch. Massive Javier Bardem vibes for Vicious.
I loved it! It's not as good as the anime but it has this beautiful vibe to it. Like 3 college students made it as their passion project and just so happened to have a stoned uncle who does top notch CG work. I also liked that Faye wasn't slut coded. All in all, it's just good.
There is no free will. None whatsoever.
Kinda true though. Free will is just an illusion, but who cares because the illusion works well enough for me.
What is your basis?
What does it mean to truly have free will?
Your brain is billions of electrically-reactive cells and interconnections, and your consciousness is electrical impulses shimmering around those cells in a more or less stable way.
A belief in free will implies the belief that you essentially have control over the physical mechanism that makes up you. A brain may not be a fully deterministic machine in the sense that a certain input condition may not always result in the same output, but it seems like a stretch to say that "you" both directly result from and directly control that mechanism.
My masters in people science, fieldwork, etc.
“that’s just how I’ve always done it” is the worst when it's used as an excuse to avoid putting effort into personal growth
I hate when people say that. I work in IT and that is a very popular phrase. Well you can do something wrong for a very long time.
Nobody in your life agrees with you? You gotta get out of that toxic environment.
In relation to your hill: While you're entirely correct, that's absurdly small potatoes compared to industrial water use. Yes, we should be conscious of our water use and limit unnecessary overuse, but a higher priority ought to be regulating industrial use. Data centers are the obvious example of using way too much for bullshit that ain't worth the water or power. Speaking of power, we could reduce water use by power plants. Nearly all generate power by boiling water. I'm a power plant operator at a plant that happens to use reclaim water as our source water, and we purify on-site for the main process, and we have a brine concentrator and crystallizer on-site to recycle the cooling tower blowdown and remove the solids to a dumpster that goes to a landfill. Unfortunately we burn methane, so I can't say that we're green, but we at least discharge zero water into local waterways (except storm drains when it rains).
My hill: Vote with your wallet. If you really believe in something, stop giving money to companies fighting against it. I won't buy chikfila because the owners actively spend money on gay conversion camps and lobby to reverse the legality of same sex marriage. It's impossible to research every little thing before every purchase, and sometimes there's no reasonable alternative, but something like chikfila is easy to avoid. There is no ethical consumption under capitalism, but don't let perfect be the enemy of good. Little changes can add up, and doing anything even a little bit better is an improvement over not trying.
Bonus hill: Put your fucking grocery cart into the cart corral. It takes ten seconds and prevents cars from getting hit. It's kind of the simplest measure for societal decency. I don't believe in the death penalty, but what value are you contributing to society if you're too selfish to return your fucking cart?
From Wallet Voting by Cory Doctrow:
Wallet-votes always go to the people with the thickest wallets, and statistically, that is not you.
It doesn't mean to keep shopping at Amazon if you hate their business practices, it just means that you & your friends won't have any impact on Amazon's business policies.
Granted, you'd be a hypocrite, so definitely don't shop where you hate, but don't expect a giant corp to change.
I read that link and I'm not sure I understand Doctorow's reasoning on the subject. I typically find people that dismiss voting with their wallet fundamentally misunderstand microeconomics but either way, both points (yours and mine) are definitely not hills I'd die on.
Love the drops-fill-buckets mindset!
Piggy backing on your comment: for folks wanting to put their money to more ethical use, here are some resources:
- Change your banking account: https://bank.green/
- Donate to charities: https://www.charitynavigator.org/
- Vote for right candidates: https://www.lcv.org/congressional-scorecard/
- Join the SHIFT is a general one for climate stuff: https://jointheshift.earth/
These are mostly US and climate focused resources since that's where I am. Would love to see other people's resources too!
Your hill - first two sentences absolutely, in UK so no chikfila.
www.Goodsuniteus.com is a start to seeing where your money goes. Still looking for a better alternative.
The good news is as the giant evil corporations buy up everything it gets easier to just stop buying shit in general.
Good idea, but they collect subpoenable data and nag about installing the app. Why do they need my data?
Yeah I would love to find something better. Back in the 90s we had a book that you could look stuff up in. It was designed more as a shopping guide for groceries but it was super helpful.
Wish there was something that provided insight without cost.
Water usage but in the opposite direction. Yes, I'm going to take a bath. No, I don't think it makes any actual difference ; go blow up a factory or a data centre if you care so much about water. (Or maybe do it even if you don't, it never hurts !)
Getting married without a prenup in today’s world is foolish. Ask marriage counselors and they will in general tell you to get a prenup. A prenup is wrote by two people and both have their own attorney. Anyone who refuses to get one or even discuss one is someone you should run from. A prenup details how a divorce AND how a marriage should run.
Also anyone who wants operating system or device level age verification doesn’t understand how bad things will get if we do that. It’s only about mass surveillance and selling of your data. It does nothing to protect kids.
I have heard that before and I think the same as before I started my marriage: I will not start a marriage with planning how it might end. Also half of the assets is fair, ailment is fair. It stings when it happens but it's fair. I say that as a man with a good income.
I knew the deal when I married my wife. I think part of marrying someone is the fact that ending the marriage is shitty. So you better be careful who you marry.
I mean this. I do truly wish you the best, but the reality is close to 50% of marriages end in divorce. With the exception of forced marriages, all of them started thinking it would last forever. Way too many divorces end with one side getting screwed. “Just be careful of who you marry” is a recipe for failure when taken it context of the above statistics. Many people are trapped in bad marriages and can’t really get a divorce without getting screwed. So that 50% number should really be higher. Every walk of life we plan for the worst and hope for the best, or at least if a person is paying attention they do. Marriage is a huge item. Plan for the worst (prenup) and hope you never need it. Either that or risk winding up as a statistic.
If you don’t get one (and are told to get one) then get screwed and look back realizing had you gotten a prenup things wouldn’t have been as bad…. Well I’ll have a hard time finding sympathy.
Also the half the assets sound fair. Until you realize that it’s possible to lose more then half without a prenup.
I thought the 50% stat didn't filter out repeat offenders.
I remember a science fiction story where the marriage license has a seven year term and has to be renewed periodically.
This idea is also in the beta canon Star Trek novels. If I remember correctly, it was the Vanguard series with Carol Marcus and James Kirk dissolving their marriage.
That’s an interesting concept
"The Puppet Masters" by Robert A. Heinlein. There's an acceptable movie version of the book. The marriage scene isn't in the movie, though.
(US context) The advice I got was that every marriage has a prenup. If the couple doesn't write it, it's just the default prenup their state wrote and it's going to be crap for both people.
That’s exactly correct
Private ownership of vehicles should be banned. Most people's cars are unused for 90% of the day, which is insanely inefficient. Have a pool of cars they anyone can hire just for the time they need them. It would be cheaper for everyone and there wouldn't be three fuck ugly cars in front of every house.
It would be cheaper for everyone and there wouldn’t be three fuck ugly cars in front of every house.
They already exist, it's called taxis. Or you can hire cars. But there still not cheaper, cause corporate needs number to go higher.
I'd kill myself right now if I was stuck sharing a car for the rest of my life with my neighbor who literally eats shit.
who literally eats shit
?
Problem is that almost everyone is using them at the exact same time every day to get from and to work.
We had Car2Go in our city, but they went bankrupt because of the tragedy of the commons- got trashed by both terrible drivers and slobs who made every surface sticky.... We need a drastically different education and culture first. [might work in japan]
Communauto and it's competitors are going strong in Montreal.
In my area, as in many others, we had a few e-scooter rental companies for a few months. They pretty much just weren't viable because people didnt care for the stuff. Basically if its rented, people will only care in so far as they can be held responsible.
Additionally, public transport doesn't really work here because we dont have the population density.
That principle is important.
In any system where goods ( of some kind ) are not owned by the people using them, then you have to make those goods near-impossible-to-break, which is part of where communist Brutalism aesthetic comes from.
There was a book by a shelled-moluscs scientist who was born blind: he sees through his fingertips.
He's the one who pointed that principle out, having lived in communism for part of his life, & once the principle's understood, it can't be unseen.
Know somebody who cares for their tools like jewelry?
They'd all be destroyed, pronto, in communism.
That's the price that gets paid when nobody owns what they're using.
And THAT principle, means that it then becomes possible to design means-sharing-systems that can work.
The e-scooter rental systems that many cities now have, is 1 example: idiotproof, indestructible, & they enable significant improvement in the city.
But consider contractors who need to be able to get anywhere, with their tools..
public transport may break their work.
Rurally, not having a vehicle's .. often suicide.
& if the city's designed like US cities, towns, & villages, where they engineer it to break any other form of transport, then you cannot get to the supermarket without a car, from many locations.
It takes much more whole-systems orientation, to get it right, than what the US has been doing..
< shruggeth >
just some perspectives, is all..
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Nobody owns anything in communism?
Your tools would be destroyed pronto?
Whats with the sneaky nonsense in an otherwise reasonable comment...
Yes, its known as tragedy of the commons.
my hill: when i post an asklemmy, i place my answer as a comment, so the thread doesn't become a bunch of replies to my personal answer, so each reply to the post relates directly to the original question
Cashiers here have started saying "have a good rest of your day" instead of "have a good afternoon" or something.
It never used to be a phrase.
Its very common now.
I understand that language evolves and that this is probably used often enough to be dramatically "appropriate" now, but i just hate it.
Some how the grammar is just discordant and I find it jarring every time.
Of course, I dont tell cashiers about this grievance, because I appreciate them and I understand this is just me being weird and I try to get through my day offending the fewest service workers as possible.
As someone who used to work retail, I feel this. I have trouble socially and just want one phrase to mindlessly close out every interaction. I started with "have a good day," but as the day progressed, I would get more funny looks or comments like "...what's left of it." I'm sorry, is after 6pm no longer today? Today is a day, right? I ended up using "have a good one." While less formal, the funny looks and comments stopped.
People are funny. They think it's strange that I say have a good day as it's starting to get dark, but don't bat an eye at the fact that I'm only wishing them a good day. What about tomorrow? "I hope today goes well for you, but fuck tomorrow." Is the idea that they expect to see me every day? I deserve days off, too. I'm not going to be here tomorrow to wish you a good day, so maybe I should tailor it to my schedule to make sure you're covered until I see you again. "I have tomorrow off, so have a good couple days!" No, I'd have to change that every day... maybe "Have a good time until I see you again!" is better. What happens when I change jobs? I don't think I'll see them again, so I need to make sure their days are good from here on out? "Have a nice life!" That's worse somehow.
This reminds me of the end of sophomore year in high school. We were signing yearbooks, "Have a nice summer, hope you don't drown!" Thanks for the positive wishes, but now I'm going to worry about drowning every time I go swimming!
May the rest of your your day/evening/afternoon be as delightful as you!
Oddly enough, I've met someone whose peeve was 'Have a good one!'
They're like, 'Have a good what!? Day? Life? Colonoscopy? Be specific!'
Still my go to, though.
On one hand, youre welcome to do whatever you must to get through the day. As i mentioned above, I dont want to be a dick about it.
That said, the convention has always been to say, "have a good <time of day>".
I hear that you dont want to invest the effort to compute the time of day, and thats kinda what I hear when some one says "have a good rest of your day".
If you compare it to "have a good day", it's longer and awkwarder, and the extra words are to avoid...the scenario of someone complaining that part of the day has already passed and can no longer be nice?
In the same vein of unnecessary specificity: I hate when waiters ask "how is everything tasting?" I have to resist replying that it tastes great but it's cold and the texture makes me want to gag.
Similarly, I find it slightly annoying when you thank a cashier and they respond by saying you're welcome. This exchange was purely transactional (I paid for my items and you did your job), so please don't imply that you did me some sort of personal favor. But like you, I won't say anything about it to the cashier because their job is already hard enough.
I don't get this one. You started it going with the thank you. now they have to say your welcome.
When you thank a cashier, that's the standard polite way to close the interaction and both of you understand you're not actually expressing gratitude to them for simply doing their job.
Responding with "you're welcome" implies the settlement of a social debt (i.e., yes, I did you a favor and your gratitude is acknowledged) that wasn't part of that purely transactional exchange. It's an exaggerated response that comes across as presumptuous. You thanking the cashier doesn't indebt them, but their "you're welcome" implies that you owed them.
BUT that's not their intent, they're just mindlessly saying it because that's how their manager or grandma or someone taught them to respond and they never stopped to think about it. So I find it mildly annoying, but I'd never point it out and neither of us wants that discussion.
exactly. THEIR MANAGER! get why you should give them some slack now?
both of you understand you're not actually expressing gratitude to them for simply doing their job
Then order from DeathsRUs.com
that is a very weird way of looking at it. "thank you" has always been a way of expressing gratitude.
yes, they may simply just be doing their job, but at the same time you are also doing what you as a customer should be doing: place your items on the counter, pay, get your stuff, and leave. there's no need for you to thank someone; there's no need for any words of exchange.
"thank you" may be a standard polite phrase, but so is "you're welcome" or "no problem". you were polite to them, so let them be polite to you by acknowledging your expression of gratitude.
you were polite to them, so let them be polite to you by acknowledging your expression of gratitude
But it's not an expression of gratitude in this context unless they did something beyond their job duties. Thanking them is just the universal polite way of ending the exchange and most customers do it. This interaction is routine and necessary to complete a purchase, and customers aren't expressing genuine gratitude just because the cashier did their job.
I mean, I'd argue that "Thank you" always implies acknowledging a social debt; if you don't feel there was a social debt someone just assisted you with, I probably wouldn't say, "Thank you."
"Have a good day" would just as equally and politely close the interaction while not implying you were just assisted with a social debt.
"Have a good day" would just as equally and politely close the interaction while not implying you were just assisted with a social debt.
I agree and I use that all the time.
Even if "thank you" acknowledges a social debt then you're not indebting the cashier by thanking them. Being told you're welcome implies that you owed the cashier when they simply did their job.
Anyway, apparently I'm in the minority on this and that's fine!
Lulu’s Bakery on Union Turnpike in Fresh Meadows makes the best chocolate frosted doughnut in NY and possibly the US. I haven’t even had THAT many chocolate frosted doughnuts around the country, but I don’t know how someone makes a chocolate frosted doughnut better than that.
If I leave now I can be there in 5.5 hours according to my gps.
I’m not going to eat a fucking hot dog, I don’t care how much everyone else pretends to enjoy them, they’re a crime against food and decency.
Eating a hot dog on a Friday violates all major religions' rules on food.
Islam: No pork
Hinduism: No beef
Buddhism: No meat
Catholicism: No meat on Fridays
Discordianism: No hot dog buns
I guess Friday is going to be Chili-Cheesedog day for me for here on out.
Eating a hot dog on a Friday violates all major religions' rules on food.
Nice. That's the best part.
Plenty of Buddhists eat meat. Often
And plenty of Catholics eat meat on Fridays.
I think they did away with that rule lol. Plenty of Hindus love cheeseburgers.
Are you not dismissing every other type of sausage, or did just not consider them? Because if this is about lips & assholes, almost all of them are all lips & assholes.
That's the strongest point in their favor.
It’s not so much lips and assholes, I know far too much about processed foods to be bothered by that, it’s the taste of a hot dog. They don’t taste like meat, they don’t taste like food, they taste specifically and mercilessly of hot dog. I’m not opposed to a good sausage, but most sausages aren’t good because for some reason almost all of them have to have fucking fennel seeds in them.
Have you tried the Bacon SPAM? It tastes kinda like a cross between hot dog and bologna.
That can go straight to hell.
I tell ya you're not missing much.
even the best hot dog is, well,l still just a hotdog.
I’ve had hot dogs, I know what I’m missing and I do not miss it.
I hate doing dishes like that anyway. I just scrub them one at a time under running water after letting them soak in whatever water can fill in. I don’t really think of the sink as a sanitary item regardless of how much you clean it. The drain is always going to be gross.
"Deserving", "credit", "blame", "justice", and related concepts are all collective hallucinations. We're all observers riding around powerless in robotic meat chassis and the part of us that experiences every bad and good thing we'll ever experience is completely disconnected from the part of us that makes any decisions. There's no "justice" in making sure someone who committed some atrocity experiences negative consequences. The "justice" system should be focused solely on rehabilitation and protecting people -- innocent or otherwise. Governments trying to be in the business of "punishing" people is misguided at best.
In pretty much the opposite direction, my hill is that "right","wrong", "blameworthiness" and "praiseworthyness" are concepts that people are in general allergic to critical thought towards, and they are EXACTLY the concepts that people should be approaching in order to have a better life and to make a better world.
hopefully pacifism.
you took that literally, didn't you
you got it but I am a bit serious.
Have you read all of human history ?
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Have you tried replacing the grass with local flora?
Also, what your family uses is a drop in the bucket compared to what your local industry wastes.
There are probably a dozen or more open air, private swimming pools that sit filled, full of chemicals, and unused 350 days a year, within walking distance of your place.
I checked out the gym near me, lifetime, who charge $330 a month. They have a heated Olympic size swimming pool outdoors year-round, in a climate that gets a fair amount of snow in the winter. So that’s what rich people do with our resources.
As far as water, yeah. Even in very arid places, it’s permitted to do agriculture to grow things like hay and use 80% of the local water supply. Even better, there’s a trend in the US where people from places like Saudi Arabia grow the hay, use our water, and then export it.
The people at that gym aren't 'rich.'
The rich folks are the ones with their own Olympic sized pools.
It’s just a matter of degree. Sure, we could take someone who has a net worth of $30 million and say well, that’s nothing, some people have 30 billion. People who are paying over $300 a month for a gym membership have a lot more money than people who are trying to afford $25 a month.
A frog is much bigger than an ant.
Both get crushed by a bulldozer.
The 0.01% are the 'rich.'
No, those are the super rich. Say I'm battling some powers on a local level. I have a net worth of $120k and an income of $45k a year. They have a $3 million ranch, net worth of $15 million, basically own the local sheriff and town council. But they're not "rich" because there's someone elsewhere with more money than them?
I’m very anti-lawn and would love replacing it with native wild flowers. We unfortunately don’t own the house, a friend does. I may throw down some clover seed, which uses less water as a small defiant act.
And, yes, our city has the pools, at least a dozen 18 hole golf courses and three day a week watering. Absurd since we’re on the verge of drought every year. Hopefully the powers that be known what they’re doing
Maybe more of an online/fandom type of nobody rather than IRL, but I LOVE Sonic The Hedgehog ( Sonic '06 ) so much despite all the glitches because I think the glitches add so much to the game. Cannot convince me that bug riddled mess isn't a very beautiful sight to behold.
