Yes
(midwest.social)
Stamets
People TwitterThat's not introversion.
Then what is it?
Executive dysfunction
Can't say it's never happened. It was a lot worse in my 20's. Social anxiety was bad.
Responding to a text you don't feel like responding to is just a chore that needs to be done. You respond, set a mental limit on back-and-forth banter, then hard stop it with an excuse when you're done. If you get into it and it's not taxing, go with it, if it's killing you, throw out i'll have to talk to you later and then be the bad friend :)
Once again the internet conflates "introvert" with "crippling social anxiety/executive dysfunction".
"Do y'all extroverts ever feel pressured to talk, flighty, and hypersexual after three hours of sleep?"
Ah, bipolar my old friend. How are you?
It's ok, I'm both!
I'm an introvert so conversation drains me and so I dread seeing the text message come in as I'm more than likely already over my social exposure limit, but my extreme anxiety about everything forces me to answer it almost immediately lol
What the fuck, are you me?
Oh God... This whole time I thought I was me but I'm not! I'm you!?
Not anymore. My friends know that life sometimes gets busy and things sometimes fall in between the cracks. If they are truly friends, they know I'll come back eventually and if they are in a rush, they can msg again. To people who think they are entitled to an answer i apply the following principle: "I have no obligation to lower my car window for bums begging for money. Even if I know them personally."
Welcome to my adhd world
The longer you don't respond the more daunting it gets
I wish people just came and saw me in person
I appreciate the notification my messages gives me sometimes. I forget the exact verbiage, but it brings it to the top of the list and says something like, "you got this 1 day ago. Did you mean to respond?"
I will use that as a start to my text "hey my phone reminded me i didnt respond to this. So sorry!"
Only my ADHD homies understand. Everyone else gets very upset.
Or:
Let me respond to that text my friend sent me the other day looks at phone and it's been 3 months
Wait, do you not?
friend? I do this at work all the time, half my day is dealing with the consequences of not responding on time.
Or at all
I walked out of a 2-hr meeting Monday and on the way to my next meeting got confronted by a guy in the lobby for taking too long to schedule a meeting he had requested on Friday...
I have people schedule meetings on the same day. I mostly am not at my computer. 2 - 3 check ins a day typically. Then they get mad when i dont show up to a meeting i never accepted.
I also get people who apologize for a "late response" when its an hour later. Like wtf do these people expect
I work in a severely understaffed development department for a city. The entire city has fewer than a dozen employees, but we have MASSIVE residential houses (median new home over 5 million) thay are more complicated than most commercial developments. I coordinate all development, permitting, and inspections and am also the GIS departmentand web editor.
I currently have 200 major development projects in some level of review (plus the houses that have been permitted but take 3-5 years to build), and every fucking one of them wants to talk to me for 30 minutes every week about their project.
And then they bitch that my reviews take too long or that I'm hard to get on the phone.
Marketologists be like: let's put another notification so that's the end user would be incencitized to open our site/app again
Me, not opening it again: The crack is sealed, and my order of monks would keep it that way for generations to come
Yes
Very yes.
Very very yes.
Immeasurably yes.
Yes, but if the friend is a fellow introvert they understand.
Yeah but only always.
3 weeks? Try 6mo
I'm doing this right now
Yeah that happens to me. I call it "getting a text".
People know I'm often not timely with message responses
If they're not cool with that, they probably self selected out of being my friend
it's almost as if you should be friends with people who like you, and not friends with people who dislike you or whom you dislike.
when someone complains about how awful their friends are/make them feel, i ask them why they are friends then, and they usually tell me to go fuck myself. i don't think i've ever dated a woman who actually liked her friends, so much as hated them and just wanted them to be jealous of her.
Can't speak for everyone, but oh absolutely yes, for me.
No
No one texts me
Not even scams and advertisers?
Scams, almost never. Advertisers, couple of times in a week. I went on a block spree couple of years back and that seems to have worked.
I think you have the order of operations wrong here. You're excusing bad behavior by claiming introversion. That's just being shitty.
This type of behavior is usually caused by extreme social anxiety coupled with depression, ADHD, or some other mental health issue that causes executive dysfunction.
It's not "just being shitty".
You're the type of person to call folks not getting out of bed because of their depression "just being lazy"
Inb4 "no this is different"
Found the entie!
You get over the guilt. It's fine.
