Men r so nonchalant
(midwest.social)
CoupleMemesI mean what more do you really need to know?
I've already lived my day I have no desire to relive it.
...was alive.
That's quite the information you got there. It'd be a no brainer if you knew he still is alive
I remember reading about this in a couple's book, and I'm paraphrasing.
Men have been conditioned to rethink about events in terms of its conclusion.
Women have been conditioned to rethink about events in terms of the moment-to-moment.
So often, our answers are like... "eh it was fine."
I work in tech. No one cares about my updates to the client SDK. It would make for boring dinner conversation and it’s not like there is office gossip…I work from home. Do you want to hear about my chat about updates to the corporate PPT deck to illustrate the new logical flow of connectivity? Because marketing was on that call and they didn’t care either.
I don't have the luxury of working from home, but def feel this as a tech guy in a no - tech family.
No one cares about how I found some crusty old code that was not at all optimized that I trimmed an order of magnitude off its run time, nor how I fixed some dumb debugging logic a coworker inserted that caused a race condition once in a while; hell basically no one would understand unless I explained ELI5 style.
The especially hard part is that the dynamic OP is meme-ing on is the reverse of me and my fiancé (I'm the male and I want to talk, she's the female and wants to forget she even has a job the moment she's out of the office).
I really feel that last statement. Our company has been working on internationalization for years and I've told my management at least 3 times what we have left for the portion of our product. It still hasn't been prioritized and now I'm in meetings about internationalization for the company and it's a waste of my time.
Tell me about that SDK. Which technology do you use? What do you think about the latest supply chain attacks?
Finally someone who gets ME! I maintain the Go SDK and leverage Snyk and GitHub to perform dependency checks. I’m mostly using the standard library but I like feeling like I have someone over my shoulder double checking things. I maintain the things built on top of the SDK as well like the Terraform provider so it’s really nice having the foundation and the building. No one else cares but I rewrote the back off/retry logic this week so folk don’t overload the API. Supply chain attacks are scary. I run as few dependencies as I can without having to reinvent the wheel. I’ve have spent so much time double checking package signing and key security it’s insane.
Oh my god I know exactly what you mean. Even when I'm more of a terraform user. I've been interested in go for a while, but my last boss, who was a giant jerk, wanted me to check it, so I decided to go for rust instead.
Fick dich, Christian!
I didn't dive deep yet, because my daily business is Java/Kotlin and C#, but it seems nice.
Welp, personally I spend my time either working 12 hour shifts to keep shit limping along or recovering from said 12 hour shifts, doesn’t exactly generate a lot of titillating anecdotes, unless you want to hear about my asshole boss who calls everyone into a meeting to tell us that we’re all replaceable or how much I hate Optane, and nobody has consented to that so far
Not all of us are Geralt of Rivia.
“How was your day, sweetie?”
“Hmm…” grunts
"Fuck"
"Looks like rain"
Some of us go Paaam-paraaaam!
That's because men are rarely listened to.
I've heard plenty of stories of men finally opening up to their partners just for her to leave him because she "lost the spark" or "can't look at him the same way" or some other shit.
Stories from whose side? What were the feelings that were discussed? How did the women react and how was that reaction taken by the men? Really not enough to go on here which is why we shouldn't rely on internet stories to form opinions.
I won't claim this is nearly the same magnitude of issue but this comment reads like a "what was she wearing" type of comment. You're presuming a particular perpetrator and victim and immediately doubting a portrayal and envisioning your own because they don't agree.
I'll just say that, many of the times I have opened up to some people, I have come to regret doing so. And no, the stress was not "I said something racist and everyone hates me now". I won't detail beyond that for obvious reasons, but I know where the sentiment comes from.
this comment reads like a "what was she wearing" type of comment
You already know you shouldn't be making that comparison. How awful.
Man, you've gotta find yourself someone who will listen. Wife and I do "check-ins" 2 or 3 times a week. A chance to talk about what we're focusing on our worried about. It helps a lot, both ways.
I'm not saying it's not possible, but it's rare. And your spouse/partner is only one person. Daily non romantic interactions also count.
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Thanks for proving their point!
y'all never have anything interesting to say lol
Not to mention the whining man is clearly being listened to and empathized with by all of you. That actually proves my point.
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Whiniy little pissbaby lol
Not fair, sometimes I'm not hungry
Same, heart still beating.
